On April 21, 2007, two students got married in the Radhadesh temple: Dinadayal Dasa (31, a devotee for nine years) and Anupama Dasi (31, a devotee for twelve years). Both attended the College for three years and consider Radhadesh their home.
Their parents came to Radhadesh for the first time just for the marriage and were impressed by the chateau, property, and everything they saw. The marriage enlivened them, and it was good for them to get in touch with Krishna’s presence, the newlyweds said. Although their parents have doubts about Krishna consciousness, they accept what their children do as devotees, even though it is different from their own worldview.
Dinadayal said that being a householder will take on a new feeling after their summer vacation in Croatia, when they come back to Belgium in September and will have an apartment. They will be able to invite devotees to visit them at their home. It is the duty of a householder, he said, to invite devotees, serve them prasadam, and spend time with one’s guests. Householders make spiritual progress by doing that, and it enriches their lives, as it is enjoyable. As a student in Croatia, he organised weekly meetings with devotees and felt blessed and happy by their visits. He noticed that this is not practised so much in Radhadesh, so he intends to do it regularly.
“Regarding cooking, five of us students were living together in an apartment in Croatia,” he said. “Each day somebody else had to cook. This way everyone learned something from the others. It was the happiest time in my student life when I could cook. In the Vaishnava culture, everything is based on prasadam. If you can cook and thus satisfy the devotees, you are doing an essential service. It is natural and positive and creates happiness for all. I never learned how to cook. Krishna is reciprocating with my endeavour. We will never do anything if we do not try. So my motto is to go forward and try. All of us have that experience of taking the courage to do things just for the sake of service and becoming empowered and successful.”
Asked why they got married, Dinadayal said, “At the beginning of our relationship, I asked Anupama whether this was karma or free will. Since I knew her for a few years, I found her character irresistable. As a devotee I had asked myself many times whether it is possible to fall in love, after learning so much about philosophy and renunciation. I know the answer now. Of course, there is a big risk in getting married. In the Krishna consciousness movement we Westerners have had the same divorce rate as the outside world, maybe because devotees lacked the income needed to provide for the household. But Anupama and I will both have services here for which we are compensated, so we should have a good chance.”